Sometimes we feel downcast, low in morale, sunk, with little desire to face what life presents us ... We can even spend long periods in which we feel dragging the train of our life, in a sad and tired state of mind , full of gray and without any illusion.
“You are not in low spirits because things are not going well,
but things are not going well because you do not have the spirit up "
Song
Meanwhile, our mind does not stop constantly justifying the reasons for such a situation: our job or the lack of it, economic hardships, the attitude of our partner, a child that worries us, lack of meaning in life, ... and sometimes all them and none. Our daily existence offers us a bunch of powerful reasons to feel down, and we feel that all these reasons are external to us, part of our environment.
And the reality is quite the opposite. Nothing and no one has the power to influence our state of mind. Feeling good is an internal, personal and totally independent task. It does not mean that we live in an unreal world where there are no problems. Problems will exist until we stop living, but the important thing is how we deal with them. There is the difference.
Our emotional state is the glasses with which we observe life, and from which: we act. We all have the experience of how a specific event, the same event, has generated contradictory emotions in us, depending on the emotional state in which it has found us. It is not, then, the outside that commands our lives, the one that defines how we feel emotionally. Our emotional state is an absolutely internal decision, it is a personal decision.
And deciding the eyes with which we observe the world opens or closes the sea of opportunities that surrounds us. Have we never had the experience of being rooted in a problem and with the arrival of a friend, who enjoys a different perspective, infuses us with an emotional state of enthusiasm and leads us to a different reality? So is the ability to paint our surroundings according to what we want and what we live outside or inside?
When we are in positive moods, such as happiness, enthusiasm, admiration,… we enter a world full of new possibilities for the future. While, in negative moods, such as sadness, fear, anxiety, ... we find ourselves in a dark world, with no exits.
Mastering our state of mind is the basic instrument we have to start creating the life we want. It requires permanent vigorous exercise. It is a garden that requires constant care and pampering. It does not solve everything, but it is the focus that can illuminate the way that makes life easier and fuller or an unpleasant life permanently full of insurmountable obstacles. Each mood brings its own world
That being the case, why don't we choose, then, to create a permanent, positive, vigorous and serene state of mind?
There are two basic reasons. The first is that our state of mind is often not easily detected, it is not very visible to ourselves; And for this reason, we understand that what causes our state of mind is due to our outside world, to the problems that surround us. We blame it on the people, the circumstances, the problems that overwhelm us; and from there, we build our mental map that justifies our spirit, and therefore our life.
The second reason is that maintaining a quality state of mind requires permanent vigilance and constant proactive attitude. It requires never lowering your arms. As one teacher said: "we are lazy even to be happy."
To help us achieve this positive state of mind, therefore, adopting a positive attitude, a willingness to enjoy a happy state of mind, is critical. And in this task we must also help ourselves with those supports that predispose us to a positive state of mind: put on that music that gives us good vibes, surround ourselves with those people who bring us joy and serenity, dress today with that blouse that gives us joviality, or apply a cream from the Vitality and Optimism Line of Emocosmetics. Above all, we have to be convinced that what really allows us to enjoy a positive state of mind is the decision to be well, the decision to take responsibility for deciding our state of mind and achieving it. This is in our hands, it is only up to us to make the decision to make it happen.
